5 Reasons Clergy Should Not Hire a Coach!
“Hire a coach,” that’s what the seminar presenter said.
“A coach can help any pastor take the next right step?” And I thought…”The ‘next right step,’ that sounds good, but a coach? Really? Isn’t coaching just navel-gazing touchy feely kinda stuff? That’s so not me!”
I didn’t really want to hear about coaching. And I really, really, didn’t want to tell anyone the realities of ministry I was facing. Maybe somewhere in the back of my mind I even indulged the thought, “I have a reputation to protect and an image to project.” And maybe there was even a deeper thought, “If I hire a coach to help me, isn’t that just admitting I’m inadequate for the job at hand?” So I started to make some excuses, and for a long time I was able to talk myself out of it. I was able to rationalize not hiring a coach in some really creative ways.
Have you been in a situation where you needed some help to take the next right step and then rationalized a way to not get that help? Or maybe you’re considering hiring a coach and need some help with your creative rationalizations to not hire a coach? Then here are five reasons to not hire a coach…
1. You’ve got it all figured out. Come on, admit it, sometimes we pastors actually believe this, or at least we want other pastors think we’ve got it all figured out.
2. You’d rather stay stuck. Sometimes it’s just easier to stay stuck than to do the hard work necessary to get unstuck. I get it! It’s a lot of work and our plates are already pretty full.
3. You like going it alone. I think a lot of pastors tend to become ‘Lone Ranger’ types simply because they don’t want to risk the vulnerability of being open with someone else.
4. Greater self-awareness just isn’t your thing. Self-awareness can be truly unsettling emotionally and spiritually; especially when we discover that we’re not who we believed ourselves to be.
5. You think the status quo is really pretty cool. After all, you’ve got this down. This routine is known and you’re comfortable and content in it, so why rock the boat?
However, if you’re in a place in life and ministry where you know you don’t have it all figured out, then maybe it’s time to work with a coach. If you’re feeling stuck and wondering how to get unstuck, or you’re feeling isolated and alone, then maybe it’s time to work with a coach. If you know you need to take a deeper look at yourself, and you’re sick and tired of the status quo….then maybe coaching can help. Maybe you are ready to work with a coach.
Through powerful questions, deep listening, and consistent support a coach can help you figure out the next step for your life and ministry. A trained coach can help you to move passed each of these conditions. Give it a shot! I did. I finally hired a coach myself and it’s made a huge difference in my life and ministry. It’s made such a difference that I enrolled in a coach training program to learn these skills as well. None of us were designed to go it alone. All of us can use someone to listen deeply to us, ask us the powerful questions, and support us consistently in this marathon of ministry.
So, will you give it a try? Try out a complimentary session and experience the difference coaching can make in your life and ministry. Check out my coaching page HERE for more info and to schedule a complimentary session.
Grace and Peace, Rich