Hey Pastor, Before You Move, Try This!
“Things aren’t bad. But they aren’t necessarily great either.” In years previous we had made lots of changes and progress. We had accomplished our goals and were now living in ‘glow of the accomplishment.’ Yet, I knew the forward movement of our church had stalled out a bit. Things that were exciting, and even a bit contentious, were now routine. And on a personal level I began to recognize that I had stalled out as well. My own life and leadership were now running in neutral. But what to do about it?
So, Pastor’s and leaders have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? Are you in that situation now? Are you wondering how to move forward? In United Methodist circles this is the time when many pastors and churches ask the bishop for a new appointment. We think, “I’ve done all I can do here and it’s time to move to a new church.” Let me suggest that there might be another alternative, coaching. I hired a professional coach and it’s made a huge difference in my life and leadership. I’m now at the point where I simply can’t imagine attempting to lead in the church, in business, or anywhere without a coach.
Here are five of the reasons I hired a professional coach:
1. For the same reason a car has rear-view mirrors. None of us can see into our blind spots without some help. A coach will help you see what you can’t see, and then deal with it! I needed that help and you do as well.
2. I needed a swift kick in the seat. I had bought into some very limiting beliefs and my coach, through some direct and powerful questions, kicked me right out of those limiting beliefs. I think we all need that swift kick in the seat from time to time. I needed this help to get unstuck.
3. I needed an unbiased outside perspective. I need somebody in my life who is not going to simply tell what I want to hear, or what they think I would like to hear, but what I need to hear. A professional coach gives us this unbiased perspective. I also value not having to question if there is another agenda in play; my coach’s only agenda is what’s best for me and my church.
4. I needed consistent support. Every time I visit with my coach I receive unconditional and consistent support. I’m no longer ‘going it alone.’ So many pastors and leaders I know are living in a self-imposed isolation. They continue to think they’re all alone. Pastors and leaders, we’re only alone in this if we choose to be alone in this. Make a better choice.
5. I needed someone who could listen beyond my words. One of the most valuable aspects of coaching for me is having someone who can listen deeply to me and hear the issue underneath the narrative. Often as I’m describing the ‘issue’ my coach will simply ask a question that allows me to see everything in a completely different light.
What about you? Are you ready to work with a coach? It might make all the difference in the world for you and your church or organization. If you’d like to give it a try…just check out my coaching page HERE.
Grace and Peace, Rich